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Toddler Won't Eat Without TV or iPad? Here's How We Cut Out Screen Time During Meals

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Our two year old son used to eat only while watching cartoons on the iPad, TV, or the phone. We tolerated this for a long time, but then decided to cut out screen time during meals cold turkey. It worked! But with some caveats. Here's how we did it, why it worked, and what we tried first (unsuccessfully).

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If you're new here, this blog is about my toddler son who's had a lot of issues with eating. He has had issues with gagging while eating, hating his high chair, food throwing, and just general toddler pickiness that resulted him in not eating and losing weight. Some of this probably sounds familiar to you, my son is not a special snowflake.

When our son was around 10 months old, we realized that we can put on Elmo on YouTube which would keep him sitting in his high chair long enough to eat (I am surprised it took us this long!). He would be entertained and wouldn't throw food or cry to get out of his high chair, plus the screen provided enough distraction that he was willing to actually eat food without getting stressed out over it.

We figured, we'll just use the iPad or TV during meals only when we really need him to eat, and just for a month or two until he learns to eat better. He was really underweight at that age, and we just needed him to eat

Besides, we started putting on Sesame Street, Elmo's World, and other educational shows that would start teaching him colors, numbers, letters. That's not so bad, right? At least that's what we told ourselves.

Soon our son was totally dependent on watching the iPad while eating and started asking for Elmo as soon as he sat down in the high chair. He refused to eat without it and would get really upset. We had created our very own Sesame Street monster. We knew we had to do something about it.

Why toddlers shouldn't watch TV while eating

There were many reasons we wanted to get our kid to eat without screen time:

  1. We wanted him to learn to eat on his own. We wanted him to learn to feed himself, to know how to tell when he is full, and to actually pay attention to his food. These are all things that he couldn't do while he was distracted with TV.
  2. We wanted to have family dinners together without Elmo (Sorry furry little red monster! You're cute, but not welcome during dinner.)
  3. We didn't want him to need to watch something while eating.
  4. It was getting out of control: if our hand blocked the screen for even a second, my son would throw a fit. He was an addict. A tiny adorable baby addict, but an addict.
  5. We wanted to limit screen time in our house. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no screen time for babies under 18 months, and up to only 1 hour of screen time per day for toddlers older than 2 years. (Source) Our son was not even 1 and was watching at least an hour of cartoons per day because of how long his meals took. We knew we wanted to try to change this.

Now please note, we are not complete sticklers for rules. Once in a while we do put on TV for my son (Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood! Who else loves Mr Rogers??) when we need him to sit still for whatever reason. I don't judge anyone for doing that. But we figured we should at least cut down on screen time during meals to reduce the amount of TV he watches.

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How to get a toddler to eat without the iPad:

There are a few approaches you can take to stop your toddler from watching TV or the iPad while eating:

1. Do nothing

Do nothing and hope they grow out of it in a few years when they learn to enjoy food and learn to eat faster, so meal times are not a chore. In the meantime, of course, you can model good behavior by not watching TV on the big screen during family dinners and not being on the phone or iPad yourself while eating.

The downside to this is that, well, you're not really cutting out screen time. And what if it's 5 years down the road and nothing has changed?

By the way, I totally get doing nothing. I am not judging. Feeding kids is hard and can be very stressful, especially if they have any picky eating issues or are underweight. We did nothing for almost a year because we just needed our son to gain a little weight and get out from being <1% on the growth chart.

2. Gradually reduce screen time during meals.

You can do this by starting meals without the iPad/tablet and prolonging the amount of screen-free time before you have to whip out the cartoons.

The downside to this is that your kid knows that the iPad is coming, so they will just keep asking for it, or they might even have a complete meltdown.

We tried this approach a few times. We've had a few nice meals where my son ate most of his food before realizing that he can ask for the iPad. But overall, this approach didn't work for us.

3. Quit screen time cold turkey.

This is the approach that finally worked for us. But it wasn't so simple. We had to wait until our son was almost two years old, started eating better, and was old enough to understand some things.

When he was 23 months old he started eating a bit better (thanks to feeding therapy!) and gained a little weight, enough to be in the 5th percentile (whoo!). He was eating 1-2 meals a day, even eating vegetables, and we were not as desperate for him to eat somethinganything, any way possible.

So we sat him down, held his hand and gently patted him on the back, and spoke at a 2 year old level:

No more Elmo. Sorry, love. We do not watch Elmo. You don't have to eat. It's OK, you can be "all done" but no more Elmo. 

We did this consistently for about 3 days while he still asked for Elmo. Some days he got upset and we let him get out of his high chair. Some days he whined and mumbled but then sat and ate some food. But after a couple of days he seemed to forget.

The key to quitting screen time cold turkey:

  1. Consistency. Do NOT give in. Once you commit to this, see it through. It will work. It might suck for a few days, but it will work.
  2. Give your kid all their favorite food. Not necessarily candy or junk food, but something that you know they like. Make the first screen-free meal an enjoyable one for them. Now is not the time to expose them to new vegetables or whatever else they will find scary or intimidating. Follow your kid's cues to see if they want to self-feed or want you to help them eat. Even if they want you to feed them, just do it at first and make the first few screen-free meals as stress-free as possible for them. 
  3. Hide ALL screens before mealtime. Put away all iPads and phones before sitting your kid down. If you normally eat in a room with a TV, try facing the chair away from the TV, or eating in another room (the kitchen vs the dining room?). Don't tease your kid by having them see a screen. We forgot to do this a few times, and the second my son saw a phone on the counter top he would just start yelling "Elmo Elmo Elmo Elmo Elmo Elmo Elmo!" But we stuck to point #1: Consistency. We would hide the phone, explain to him that there is no Elmo during meals, and give him the option to stop eating.
  4. Sit with your kid and interact with them during mealtimes. Put on some music. Keep them entertained. I remember the first few days after we made the "no iPad during meals" rule, I just chatted away at the dinner table and acted silly and playful and made sure that my son was having a good time. A few days later after I could relax and step away from the table, but the first few days it's important to sit with your kid to minimize the chances of them getting bored and asking for the iPad.
  5. Consider giving your toddler a little toy to play with at the dining table. Sort of like a little fidget spinner. It's not ideal and can then turn into your child refusing to eat without a toy, but it helps my son sit and focus. I much prefer him playing with a little toy dinosaur or car and interacting with us than being totally zoned out while watching a screen. I wrote about 3 easy sensory tricks we use to get my son to eat, and one of the tricks is having a little toy for my son to play with at the table.
  6. Our son was old enough to understand that he does not have to eat if he doesn't want to. He can get down and go play. This gave him the illusion of choice. This would not have been as easy if he was younger, but I bet it still would have worked if we stuck to the other points.

I should add that sometimes we ended up feeding our son while he was playing in the living room. No, it's not a great way for a kid to eat either. But it helped with the transition from the iPad and still got a few meals per day into him. We are moving away from that and just bringing small toys to the table now. I am OK with this for now. It's a HUGE improvement over my son being totally zombied out staring at a screen and refusing to eat without Elmo.

When to break the rules

I am proud to say that our son has not watched ANY TV at home in 3 months now. Again, not because we are super strict, but just because we were able to completely stop watching TV during meals, and he has lots of toys to entertain him outside of meal times.

BUT, when we go out to dinner, or when we are traveling and we need my son to eat, we always put on cartoons on the phone. It's literally the only way our son stays put in his chair, otherwise we have to run around the restaurant after him. And that is just not something we want to do while we are on vacation or when we want to enjoy a meal out. Hey, mama needs a break too

The cool thing is that when we get back home, our son never asks for the iPad or phone. It's just a different environment than being on vacation, so he doesn't think to ask for it when he is home. This is another reason to try to get your toddler to eat without the iPad earlier on. I am sure if he was a little older he would figure out that he can ask for the iPad at home if he just used it while on vacation.

The other time we break the rules is when my son is sick and is literally not eating anything. Then we would bring a plate of his favorite food out to the coffee table and put on TV so he can sit and eat. We don't bring the iPad to the table in this case, because we don't want him remembering that this is how we used to do things. We try to bring the food to a new environment

But aside from these few exceptions, I am happy to say that we taught our toddler to eat without TV or the iPad, and it has been awesome. We've been able to actually enjoy family meals together, and our son is now eating much better than when he was distracted by the screen. 

So what do you think? Do you think this would work for your child? Are you scared to even try? Let me know your thoughts below! And don't forget to share this on Facebook or Pinterest if you think this could be helpful for other parents.

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Thursday 16th of November 2023

Hi Kate,

I want to thank you so much for this article. Our 2 year old had become so dependent on iPad that the first thing he would say after sitting down was ‘iPad please’. We were scared to do something about this habit as he was also in a lower percentile.

We came across your article and decided to try approach #3 of quitting cold Turkey. And it worked!! After 2 days he stopped asking for it and was able to focus on eating instead of getting spoon fed every bite. (We still spoon feed him here and there but it’s gotten so much better) He still gets iPad sometimes when we go out to eat but doesn’t ask for it when we’re home. Thank you so much!!



Monday 27th of November 2023

I'm so glad to hear that this gave you the push you needed! Stay strong! lol We also do the ipad when we go out to eat sometimes. Kids are able to separate the home expectations from the dining out expectations.


Saturday 5th of November 2022

It would help most likely insha'Allah


Friday 18th of November 2022

I hope so! Good luck!


Friday 2nd of September 2022

I just want to say thank you so much for this article. It was incredibly helpful and I can’t wait to try this with my son. Everything you spoke about really resonates with me and the way you wrote it is so nonjudgmental to any decision made. Thank you again! Xoxox


Wednesday 21st of September 2022

Thanks, Kelly! Good luck with everything!


Saturday 16th of October 2021

Thanks a lot for sharing. My son is 13 months old and i have been stressed out regarding his feeding. He wont eat without the screen on. Sometimes he eats wothout any tv but most of the times he needs it.. I havebeen trying to reduce screen time but not working out.. I feel very guilty to have introduced screen to him. But there i just want him to eat. Thats all i think of... What you shared is quite practicl and i could relate to it.. Its a good relief to know that this habit can be cut down with some efforts.. Today this article is the best motivation for me


Sunday 5th of June 2022

@Kate, I have an 11 month old and going through this. I want to stop it now. What do you suggest? He is a very picky eater and does not eat much.


Friday 3rd of December 2021

I know, it's hard.. but you're definitely not alone and all those kids watching tv while eating *will* turn out OK! But of course, if you can figure out another way that would be ideal. Good luck!


Tuesday 23rd of March 2021

Hi Anna, it's so hard, I know. There's no single correct answer whether to use the screen and get your daughter to eat vs try to instill good eating habits. It's OK if you have to rely on Peter rabbit for a little while, I've been there. At the same time, if she gets back to normal eating soon, it might be worth a try to wean her off the screen. My son was below 1% for the longest time, and every time he got sick he wouldn't eat / would throw up and it was SO stressful. He is almost 4 and he is doing SO MUCH BETTER. No more screen time (except for VERY rare situations where we just need him to sit and eat RIGHT NOW), and he eat so much more new foods. We did lots of sensory play (and still try to incorporate sensory food activities into our every day lives, such as him helping me cook), did feeding therapy for a little while, and all of that together really helped. He's still super skinny, but he is around 10-15%ile now, which is a lot less stressful, especially now that I see he is growing healthy and smart, and no longer a baby or young toddler.

Hang in there. I'm always here to chat if you want to.

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